The Garden Room
Michelle talks about her specialisms and how she can help you
Put simply, the quality of our relationships affects the quality of our lives.
When we are happy with our relationships so many other things in life feel manageable. Challenges do not seem so overwhelming and on the flip side we have someone with whom to share our joy which enhances the pleasure of good times. However so often people become unhappy in their relationships and they do not know how to repair things or even if it is possible to repair the relationship. When our most intimate relationships feel under threat it be a frightening and lonely time and we can feel overwhelmed and rudderless.
Sometimes these feelings can be brought about by a life event such as a death of a loved one or they can slowly build up over time. Often transitions in our life such as the birth of a child or teenagers moving away from home can cause us to question our relationships. With some people problems arise because of relationships with the broader family such as in-laws or friends and feelings arise which make them question their importance to their partner. Trust can be a major issue in relationships and sometimes can result in infidelity which can wreak havoc on a relationship if not addressed and explored. An incident of infidelity can be a wake-up call for a relationship which can be rekindled and strengthened or it can be a sign that a relationship has deeper problems which need to be addressed.
I will work with you and provide a safe and confidential space for you to explore your relationship and decide what you would like to achieve. I will focus on the patterns you have developed and the unconscious meanings you attach to certain actions which you may not be aware are causing upset and misunderstandings.
Ultimately, I aim to help you to understand each other better and to help you develop strategies to enable you to move forward with a healthier, happier and more rewarding relationship.
If I was to speak of what type of counselling I specialise in, I would say it is relationships and communication. When we think of relationships, we usually think of relationships with other people. However, the most important relationship we all have is the relationship we have with ourselves. This is so often neglected but it is the most important relationship you will have with anyone in your life. Communication is key to all relationships and is a skill which is often overlooked. The way we talk to ourselves and understand our internal world affects how we respond to life’s stresses.
We can take back control of our lives if we are willing to put effort into figuring things out and are willing in time to embrace change. So much of the way we behave is dictated by unconscious beliefs and patterns which we totally unaware of. I aim to help you to shine a light on your hidden beliefs which are causing you to feel dissatisfied and to empower you to find a fulfilling way forward.
The transition to secondary school comes at a time which is a time of great change for young people. You may be worried about your young person for a number of reasons :
- Friendship issues
- Exam stresses
- Bereavement related issues
- Communication struggles
- Behavioural changes
I have experience of working in a secondary school with young people dealing with a large variety of issues. The most important thing to remember when dealing with adolescent issues is that all behaviours are a form of communication. Young people often find it difficult to speak to the people closest to them about what issues are causing them distress so I offer a warm confidential space to support them and help them understand their emotional and behavioural responses better. I aim to help them develop empowering coping strategies which will help them deal with the current issues but also will be tools which they will find useful in their future life.
How do I recognise if my child or someone I know is depressed?
I have a particular interest in helping people dealing with grief resulting from bereavements. Losing someone close to you can have the effect of turning your world upside down and inside out and it can feel like everything looks so bleak that nothing will ever be the same again. I can offer warm non-judgemental support during this time while you explore your feelings and work out a way forward.
Michelle is authentic, empathic and collaborative. She quickly puts you at ease and has been hugely helpful in my journey of self discovery, identifying and addressing unhelpful patterns of behaviour and limiting beliefs.
My sessions with Michelle have been fascinating and life-impactful. I have learned so much about myself and about how my behaviour has influenced my previous relationships. I feel empowered starting a new relationship with my new insights.